Anyone else feeling like on the edge of their seat every time you’re mothering? Alright..let me be the one who raise up my hand to the air. I struggle a lot with patience and calmness. I am a mess. But, I won’t let myself to be such an ordinary mess. I brave myself to be a hot mess.
I always keep these 5 mantras on my pocket and use them as my weapon to get through the day. SO HERE THEY ARE… MY 5 GO-TO MAMA MANTRAS:
1. THIS TOO SHALL PASS
Our days are not always safe and smooth as pictured on Instagram. The reality is some days are risky and rough. Unsettled baby during yoga class, toddler meltdowns in Costco, screaming child on the bus ride, the talk-back “grown up” 4 year old in the kitchen. These awkward moments when one time all eyes are on us and we run out of healthy snacks, so we gotta admit that we lose against their strong-will and give them a giant lollipop from our handbag. L Remember that those days won’t last forever. Your baby won’t stay little forever, those chunky thighs will get muscly sooner, those taste buds will develop better, those brains will get bigger. You are indeed a winner of your yesterday, so do not give up on your today, fix your eyes on a better tomorrow.
2. I CAN DO ANYTHING, BUT NOT EVERYTHING
Mom is a nurturer, carer, chef, cleaner, teacher, psychologist, story-teller, cheerleader, comedian, doctor, provider, nerve-calmer, problem solver, party-planner, shopping-buddy, sports-mate to our children. There’s nothing wrong with that, and I guess, we should give more pat to our back. We’ve done an excellent job. But, most of us make a mistake on trying to DO EVERYTHING AT ONE TIME. Which will lead us to frustration. While, the truth is; MOMS CAN DO ANYTHING THEIR CHILDREN REQUIRED AT ANY TIME THEY NEED. For example, when your baby had a fever, they tend to be more clingy and more demanding, as a mom we know that this second he/she needs us to be their first nurturer and pain reliever, so stop trying to prepare dinner with your cranky koala baby – chinese takeaway will do.
3. STOP AND BREATHE
When the world’s moving in a fast pace and seemed like I am loosing some control over myself. This trick will save me thousand bulls***. Tell myself to stop, step back, and take a very deep breath. Do this at least 3 times. Trust me! Breathing works like magic. Why? It allows you to get some fresh air and thoughts to flow through your body and mind while exhaling the old trash air and thoughts out of your body and mind. It is a healthy exercise for all moms with anxieties.
4. LAUGH IT OFF
One says…When life gets harder, laughs harder. And, I thought, that’s it! That’s what I am gonna do as a mom. When she/he spills milk on my kitchen floor, I will fake laugh at it. When she/he spews on my new sheet, I will fake laugh at it. When she/he accidentally paints my living room wall, I will fake laugh at it. Fake it till you make it. Life is too short to be stressful, and happiness is rare to find. After all, your laughs are the thing they will remember all their life. SO LAUGH MORE.
5. GOD ONLY GIVES US WHAT WE CAN HANDLE
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted[b] beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,[c] he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. – 1 Corinthians 10:13.
I am such a believer of His word. He is the alfa and omega.He structures our life from beginning till the end. He has the blue-print of our entire life on earth. Whatever He brings to us, He will bring us through it. Through the daily challenges and obstacles we may face as a MOM, these are things that will define us, WOW; that when we’re keep pushing through by the grace of God, we will come out stronger than ever.
Motherhood is definitely the hardest journey I have ever been yet the most rewarding role I have ever signed up for. Nothing comes easy to me as a mother of 3-years old boy with eczema. He is bouncy-jumpy and independent by day, cranky and high demanding by night. I survived breastfeeding, I got through sleep deprived, I went through several ER visits both local and overseas. I confronted some moms that gets annoyed by Jared’s rough approach towards their kids. I encountered my first delusional disorder due to my difficulties of getting pregnant with 2nd child. I conquered self-doubt. These achievements do not happen in a night. I pushed myself daily to practice these 5 mantras. And it worked. I am confidently announce that I am a better version of Kenny today. 😉
Last but not least, my last tip, getting to know some groups that have commonality factor with you is vital. It boosts your confidence to the next level. Knowing that you are not alone in this venture, that someone else had done it before, and others are cheering up on you on the other side of the line, made you believe that YOU CAN DO THIS! yes mamas, YOU ARE CALLED TO DO THIS! And if you need some inspirations, supports, courage on your motherhood journey, I am here for you too! Let’s connect! IG (@mamaonrepeat), or leave comment below, or shoot me an email firstname.lastname@example.org
Now, tell me some of your magic mantras on the comment below. And let us learn from one another. X