3 ODD THINGS TO THRIVE MOTHERHOOD

Do you find motherhood challenging? Do you feel inadequate for the role? Are you scared? Are feeling frustrated? How much sleep do you get this week? How many coffee do you finish a day?
and the list goes on…

Growing up I always want to be a mother. I love kids, and they love me. Not until I had my first child; not knowing what actual motherhood was like, and being afraid to talk about it with anyone. Everything started to change – one by one, little by little, day by day. How life changing and how emotionally complex a time it is for women – the powerful change of identity new mothers go through, the isolation of post-partum depression, and the on-going attachment. But it is still by far the greatest accomplishment I have ever achieved in my life. *pat on the back*

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We all know being a mother is never an easy job. Unlike 9 – 5 regular job, it requires all of your time, mind, energy, soul – ALL OF YOU. You can’t leave when you don’t feel like doing it. Everyday is a battle between mind and soul. Some peer pressures may add the nerves within you.

When all those things collide, I learnt quickly that in order for me to survive motherhood is by doing it my way.

And some of the ways are not ordinary to most ears. It might SHOCK most of the new mothers or soon to be a mother. So, are you ready?? These are my 3 ODD THINGS ON HOW TO SURVIVE MOTHERHOOD

YOU DON’T ALWAYS NEED AN ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS

Human brains, especially mom brains, in general don’t like dealing with ambiguity. We want to (believe that we) make decisions based on knowing all the facts.

Why does my 24 months old baby has suffer from sleep regression? When can you start introducing sugars to a child? What is the best gap between your first and second child? How can I remain calm when my toddler’s screaming and slamming her head on the wall during the groceries? Should I give my kid iPad and video games?

Unfortunately, this motherhood journey comes with no manual book, no contract, no insurance. There is no right or wrong, black or white. Every curiosity, every perplexity, every anxiety, every scarcity – these feelings are valid but not definite. There’s always a pro and contra to your questions. And that is okay. These should not affect your decision making process. Because remember you are doing motherhood for yourself and your children, NOT for other monsters.

So, calm down…stop putting all the pressures on yourself – to get everything fixed on the tip of your finger. Your brain may filled with 963,815 questions a day, your heart may rushed to 225 km/hr but you gotta accept the fact that some questions may not be answered instantly TODAY. But, ONE DAY you will get there. ONDE DAY you will understand why does thing happen accordingly in the past. Even when you find NO answer to your ambiguity, my one piece of advice, never give up on this hood called motherhood.

You are never alone on this journey, you are not the only clueless person on this crazy road. Ask around, speak up, and stay positive. You don’t need to figure out these puzzles alone today.

ONE PLUS ONE DOES NOT NECESSARILY TWO

What does motherhood to do with this complicated mathematical riddle. THAT’S IT! It is complicated. What I mean by this is not everyone will understand and accept this fact. SO, bear with it!! 1 + 1 = 3 ; this statement bothers most of mathematicians, it intrigued them to proof that it is true. However, to most of us – common people, we don’t really care on this debate.

And this is exactly what I feel about modern motherhood. Not everybody could understand the physical and mental struggles a mother has to face everyday. I am talking about SAHM, working moms, mom of one or twins, single moms. WE ARE ALL MOTHERS. We are all putting the same effort to raise our kids. We are all moving towards one purpose. But sadly, nowadays, the society often times try to part us into different segments. Then, the next day we wake up in mothers rivalry. Who are doing better and who are working harder?

To me, no matter what! All mothers are a super woman (full stop). They are the first one to wake up in the morning – the last one to to lay her head on bed. They gave up their body, they gave up their sleeps, they gave up their freedom, they gave up their space, they gave up their moments, they gave up their life for just one breath. They are the most selfish person on this entire world. AND I RESPECT ALL OF YOU. YOU ARE MY HERO.

That is why this topic annoys me a lot. And I feel that I had to speak up for myself. This is me explaining 1 + 1 = 3 is possibly true. The society has their own perception on motherhood. So do us, we have our own voice about motherhood. Do not let it break us, instead let the similarity unite us. So next time, when the society says you should not go back to work until at least your baby 12 months old OR they might question the things you are doing with your kids at home today, look at them in the eyes and share your voice confidently.

This journey is not meant for the weak. This gig is designed for those who are committed. This road is build for those who are willing to go extra miles, those who are open-minded, those who are extraordinaire, those who are brave enough to take the risk.

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REMEMBER THIS

Bottom line: Motherhood is not for anyone. And you are blessed to be one of its special breed.

BREAK THE RULES

YES! You hear this. BREAK THE RULES> rules are there in the first place to be broken, right? jkjkjk

With the firstborn I used to do everything textbook / Google accordingly. Unfortunately, with the second one, I have got very minimal time to follow step 1 to 10. Many times I skipped the step 1 to 6, jumped onto 7 straight away. Or otherwise, I would find Jared with another lollies in his mouth or bubbles on his throat.

Thus, I quickly learnt in order to survive motherhood, I gotta learn how to break the rules. The rules of breast feed vs bottle feed. The rules of co-sleep or crib sleep. The rules of BLW vs spoon feeding. The rules of spanking vs time out.

At this time round, I choose to do whatever works best for the me and my kids at the time. I know I used to be strict with routines. But, let’s be honest, routines are draining. For those who are having zero support system other than your husband in the house, living with routines and kids are hard work. I used up all my energy in yelling and chasing my toddlers rather than enjoying the magical moments we may create in between.

So quick updates on my life lately:

  • I don’t only breast feed. I combine breast feed and bottle feed Asher (depends on the circumstances). Mostly when I’m home during day time I breast feed him exclusively. And he’s happy to take either breast and bottle. So, I am happy too.
  • I stop sterilise bottles and other baby utensils – just because it takes forever to me to get ready. Boiling water is the way I roll these days.
  • I do half co-sleep with Asher just because I have already set up a cot for him inside the boys room and our bed is not spacious enough to fit another human on it. (We definitely need an upgrade to super King size). So, first half of the night, Asher will spend his sleep on his cot on the boys room, when he wakes up for night feeding, I will take him with me till the morning.
  • I slap and yell at Jared. But I don’t prefer to make that as my first response towards his daily misbehaviour. I ask him for time out at the first place then if he did the same mistake for the second time round, I have to give him a punishment as the consequence of his action. Then, I do reconciliation every night before bed with him then we pray together.

My advice to all mothers of one, two, three or many more. Your intuition is your best weapon. Follow them and wear them with pride.

Never ever feel sorry for breaking the rules, instead feel sorry for yourself for breaking down your mental health by following the rules.

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Mama your way is the only way you do motherhood. 
There is no hood like motherhood. Wishing you all the best and luck in thriving this gig. X

 

Love,

Kenny

SMART CLEAN HOME WITH DYSON PURE COOL

Are you looking for a new way to automate your home and improve your quality of life?

Living in an apartment with 2 kids under 5 years old, and busy professions as well as ministry, requires us to be smarter in managing the house. It’s honestly hard to keep on track with the house chores and cleaning schedule, not to mention the thick dust behind the TV cabinet and window crease, which often increase the chance of my rhinitis. That is why, as a family are always on the run to find new ways to simplify and to improve our quality of life at the same time. One of them is by automating our home.

For this matter I trust Dyson for its innovative game-changing idea for the future. I heard countless reviews on some of their home appliances products, and now I get to try it myself. Yes!! Few months ago, I was invited to try their latest range – Dyson Pure Cool Tower Fan. And man…I have been using it for the past weeks and honestly I am quite impressed.

Not just another purifiers

As it names – Dyson Pure Cool Tower Fan. It is a purifier (duhhhh..) ; it removes contaminants and allergens for a cleaner environment. However, it is not just another purifiers, this appliance removes potentially toxic fumes and odours too and it also cools in summer. How cool is that?! This means we have found our long-lost house keeper for all year round.

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Automatically monitors, reacts, and purifies

What’s more, the Purifier automatically monitors, reacts and purifies – then reports to your Dyson Link app so you’re kept in the loop. Woot woot!! This is seriously one of the best innovation I love about Dyson. It automates my house and it tells me the level of air quality inside the house daily. Dyson Link App could easily download via  App store or Google Play Store. Then follow the instructions to set up your machine. Once you finished with the machine set up, you will be able to see the summary of your house air quality information on the homepage. Tap on the chart to see the daily or weekly report.

IMG_5528Dyson Pure Cool equips with an advanced sensory technology. I did some fun play with this appliance few weeks ago, I sprayed some perfumes near the meter, and guess what?? The air quality level meter turned red which was an indication of low air quality level. Then, I placed the purifier onto a mouldy room, and found that the level of air quality gave me a red signal too.

Last step, let the Dyson Pure Cool do its job, to purifies/eliminates the toxic mists, fumes and odours. Check out other cool features on your app, such as, timer, night mode, oscillation, air-flow, etc.

Quick and easy filter changing

It is as easy as setting up the machine itself. It is low maintenance. It took me less than 5 minutes to assemble everything. Place the two filters around the base and lock it in place. This filter can last up to 12 months depends on the frequency of use with built-in notifications when they require replacing.

A modern kids friendly home appliances 

The first time I noticed once I finished assembling this fan was its sleek and minimalist look. It blends with my white wall and seated steady and well on the floor just like a bigger version of a sound speaker. Dyson Pure Cool is blade-less; it has no spinning blades and it is safe near children. This fact put me at ease when I leave the boys hang around it.

The only possible way to keep a free pollutant/allergen house 

Since having children, I realised how important it is to keep the cleanliness of the house. Children are very sensitive to the changes in the air quality. They are more susceptible to the viruses and bacteria in the house than adults are. It is my nightmare to have a suffering kids from any viruses or bacterias.

And I admit no matter how well I clean my house, I can’t do a better job than a HEPA filter to get rid of the 99.97% of the particles 0.3 microns in diameter. I want our nose, eyes, and lungs to get a break from pollutant and allergens at least when we are at home.

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Ever since I got Dyson Pure Cool at home, my hay fever attacks lessened. Asher is sleeping well and longer during night time as well as Jared. Last but not least, all of us are more comfortable playing on the carpet floor without following sneezes.

So, if you’re thinking to keep the house fresh and healthy in order to increase your family quality of life, choose the smart way, air purifier is worth your attention. I would recommend Dyson Pure Cool to automate your home. And feel the difference.

 

Love,

Kenny

 

 

 

THE NEXT PLAY DESTINATION – JUNGLE BUDDIES

Are you looking for a one stop leisure place for everyone; what I mean is – parents / grandparents, mum groups, daddys day care, kids, and babies?

JUNGLE BUDDIES is the answer to all your need – play. party. cafe.

It is the next play destination for every family on rainy days, hot days, or any days in between. Jungle Buddies are the perfect destination for all.

It is a large scale indoor play centre & birthday party venue suitable for 0 – 12 years old. It cater healthy foods & drinks in-house with a chef. Onsite parking and free wi-fi. It is one stop designated for the whole families and all occasions.

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A PLACE FOR ALL

With a huge 2 stories L-shaped play ground, party rooms, and in house cafe, Jungle Buddies is surely one play destination that will caught many eyes. From catching ups, playdates, casual meetings, to birthday parties or private event, Jungle Buddies got them covered. While you’re enjoying your me time – let your kids freed their adventurous spirit around the centre.

Besides play ground, Jungle Buddies also provide some kids activities in the house, art & craft every Tuesday & Wednesday 11am. 

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CAFE SURROUNDING

When choosing a play destination, one important thing I consider is how close it is with a cafe or restaurant. Because you know, kids will always demand you an unexpected request ever. So, a place close to cafe is always the best option for me. Jungle Buddies is not only close to a cafe, yet it has its own cafe with an in-house chef and seasonal designated menu. It is healthy and yummy too. Good price too. Look at the size below, it is massive for mommy and a toddler, isn’t it?

HEALTHY & SAFE ENVIRONMENT

Play is an important part of a child’s development. Playing can be fun and adventurous, particularly when there are playmates. However, many Australian children are less active than they should be. A safe play areas for children – separate play areas for different ages is very recommended, especially for a mom like me who has a 5 months old baby. It wouldn’t be comfortable for me to have a careless children jumping and climbing around Asher.

Jungle Buddies has some play areas for different ages;

  • soft area (0-2)
  • 2 stories L – shaped playground (> 2)

Also the place are so clean and tidy. The centre is regularly cleaned every afternoon and every staff is very kind and attentive to every customer.

STRESS FREE

As a mom of two energetic boys, never in the past 4 years I get to see a tidy corner in the house for more than 1 hour. I honestly can not stay at home the entire day with the boys – if that happen either (1) the boys will get crazy of boredomness or (2) mommy will loose her sanity. In conclusion, I go out to avoid the boys mission to destroy the house. 😦 just another confession of one tired mama. Or perhaps anyone agree of how stressful it is planning and organising kid’s birthday party. haaa…many things to do with little time available.

Bottom line, having and raising kids are hard work and stressful. Here, Jungle Buddies cater a hands free service for every family in Sydney. Joining jungle buddies has totally make such a big difference in our family.

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I am so happy with our experience with Jungle Buddies and it’s been a part of our family starting this year. This time, I would like to share this amazing experience with one of lucky family. Cause you know, sharing is caring, right?! So, here’s how:


GIVEAWAY

WIN 10 VISITS JUNGLE BUDDIES MEMBERSHIP MULTI-PASS (with value up to $120)

  1. Follow @jungle_buddies and @mamaonrepeat on Instagram

  2. Like our giveaway photo

  3. Tag at least one friend

One winner will be randomly picked on Monday, 10th September. This giveaway is no way sponsored or endorsed by WordPress or Instagram. The competition is only valid for entries within Australia.


 

Well…at last let me wish you all the best luck. X

 

Love,

Kenny

MOTHER OF BOYS – SWEET & SOUR

Life with kids…. hhmmmm…. how can I picture those?!

Let’s say it’s like playing poker. It’s so inviting and colorful, then you started to play with it and screwed it many times, yet you keep playing cause it’s so addictive, and perhaps you hit the jackpot in the next leg run.

Life with kids. One day is sweet. Some days are sour. They complete and compliment one another, they create a bunch of beautiful memories in our minds to ponder with. And here are some of mine from last weekend.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


sweet //

1. Love the sun shine and my cosy bed (I wish I could sleep longer over the weekend) // 2. Morning jamming – J with his praise list and drum sticks; inseparable // 3. J and his kitchen corner // 4. J cooked some delish food for mommy // 5. One expressive boy I have right there // 6. Food-tasting by mommy // 7. Steak – salad – organic sweet potato chips for the night // 8. Messina run with the squad; our all time fave.

sour //

9. Is it early for teething? Unsettled bub for the past 2 days, nursing all day // 10. The moment Asher finally fell asleep on his bouncer – J came striking with his jump & loud voice – gave no room for peace // 11. Raspberry ice cream is too sour for my liking – J chose this flavour and asked me to finish it 😦 // 12. one sec before the accident happened because J can’t read the STOP sign yet and he hated loosing // 13. The moment before Asher spitted on my jacket. #donotgetfooledbyhisinnocentlook #hesdangerous // 14. Too excited to do floss dance till he lost balance and hit his head on the metal lounge // 15. It’s hard to find a baby changing room in Surry // 16. Okay..let’s take picture together – J; NO! I don’t want to be your friend, you talked too much TT

 

Love,

Kenny

#FASHIONFRIDAY – DENIM GANG FEATURING ERGOBABY OMNI 360

The colder weather is officially hit. And we’re just done with packing our shorts and summer tanks. However, there’s this one item which always stay in our closets; denim jacket. Who doesn’t love a good piece of denim? It is one of the best buy of my life; I can pair it with almost anything – when in doubts wear denim. So, clearly, this week we had no idea what to wear for the photoshoot, so let it be denim. Gah. Hahahaha

It was such a nice warmer day yesterday and thank God for hubby’s day off. He took me and the kids out to Bicentennial Park to get some fresh air. Jared’s enjoying the walk with his scooter and mommy with her koala featuring the new range of Ergobaby Omni 360 – all positions baby carrier improved with new design and cool air mesh fabric.

  1. Cooler for parents and baby with breathable full body mesh.
  2. One-handed adjustment to switch from baby facing in to facing out.
  3. Ergonomic seat grows from newborn to toddler (7-45 lbs)
  4. Crossable shoulder straps & lumbar support waist belt for long-wearing comfort.
  5. Cushioned head & neck support and baby hood for sun protection & privacy.
  6. Detachable storage pouch

Also, it comes in 4 new gorgeous colours; oxford blue (as pictured), midnight blue, khaki green, pearl grey 

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Ergobaby has been a part of our family since Jared was born. He travelled in it pretty much. But I have to admit, the old fabric is way too thick and heavy. Then, I got a chance to try new range of Omni 360 and super love with it. Even hubby proved it loud, “this piece is amazing.” I love the new fabric, it is thinner and breathable; it keeps baby comfortably close to parents for a long period of time. The improved neck support is perfect for newborn, which means saying good bye to infant insert. Plus point – detachable pouch is quite generous in size, fit in for some mom’s essentials; phone, purse, key and dummy.

Happy baby. Happy mommy. Asher’s sleeping really well under my Ergo, letting my both hands free to catch Jared when it’s needed. 😉

Do you have any favourite baby wearing for exploring or travelling? Leave them on the comments below.

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Kenny: Denim Jacket (an op-shop in Japan), white pants (Topshop), Shoes (Stradivarius), Earrings (Colette by colette hayman)
Andri: Denim Jacket (Pull & Bear), Pants (Topshop), Shoes (Adidas Stan Smith)
Jared: Denim shirt (Cotton On Kids), Hooded Grey Tee (BONDS), Triangle leggings (Etsy), Shoes (Adidas)

 

 

Love,

Kenny

 

#FASHIONFRIDAY – STROLL STRIPES

Hello another weekend!

Glad that we could have spend time together as a family of four. Our family quality time is pretty simple; strolling around the city, cafe hopping, playground and capturing moments.

And guess where we visited today?! Yes! Another day in Surry Hills. It is indeed one stylish neighbourhood next to the city which filled with many cafe scene. This was the place destination when we were dating till today, we take the kids with us like a joey in our pouch.

The kids enjoy the stroll as much as we do, while sipping his  version of coffee called babycino, then we stopped by here and there to take some pictures. And how I loved seeing how the photos turned out at the end of the day; many raw moments which we will treasure in few years to come.

OH LETS PUT A PRESSURE POINT to the outfit theme of the day; STRIPES STRIPES STRIPES…

Don’t they look cute together? Horizontal lines will give wider illusion to your body, an in contrast, vertical lines will give thinner illusion to your body. Let’s see. I don’t really believe in it, I still look wide in these photo though. T T What should I do >>> ? aghhh…Nevermind let’s not focus on my flaws. Let’s take a look at the star of the day/ the over – achiever. My forever firstborn, Jared. He’s clearly looking cute with this edgy look.

Oh and tomorrow we’re going to celebrate Jared’s 4th birthday! DINO RAWR!! gonna get back to blowing some balloons. So see you next week! X


Jared: Biker’s hat, Denim jacket & Stripes turtle neck (Cotton On Kids), “Play Hard” Legging (Minimacko), Stripes socks (Uniqlo), Shoes (Vans)
Kenny: Outerwear (H&M), Stripes White Pants (Shein), Sunglasses (ASOS), Shoes (Alexander Mcqueen)
Andri: Beanie (Carhartt), Stripe Shirt (GAP), Pants (Zara), Bomber Jacket (H&M)
Asher: Bonnet (Hazel Village), Stripes tee (Cotton On kids), Stripes Navy Overall (Miann & Co), Tights (Ollies & Place)

 

Love,

Kenny

7 TIPS TO GET YOUR KIDS TO SLEEP ALONE

I have to say how happy I am to tuck in a happy kid in bed after 3 years of needing to lay with him till he fell into very deep sleep OR many times I ended up waking up on his bed.

Does it sounds familiar in your household? Then maybe these tips are for you or at least letting you know that it’s possible. Cause I doubted it too. 😉

But, today I am proudly say that these tips do good to us, as a husband and wife, a father and mother. We wake up feeling good.

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7 TIPS TO GET YOUR KIDS TO SLEEP ALONE

1. REASON

Always give your kid a reason behind your action.

I used to say to him that “he is now a big boy, he is brave, etc.” But somehow, it didn’t work. Telling him the fact of his present existence isn’t really helpful.

Then, I tried to use a different approach, “blame others”. I told Jared, that the doctor wants mommy and daddy to sleep at mommy’s bed so baby could have a nice sleep without being possibly kicked by him. While daddy’s need to help mommy in case mommy need to pee at night. He somehow got this idea and let us sleep in our bedroom.

I am not suggesting you to tell any lies to your kids, give them more specific reason which weight on others than YOU, parents. Because kids, they are tend to regards others/strangers highly than their closest ones.

2. REWARD

It is time to congratulate them for their successful effort. By giving them a reward. A sticker, kinder egg, lollies, anything on their top list will do. Because who doesn’t love acknowledgement?! Even a small reward will help to boost the confidence of your minis.

I used to have a sleep tracker stuck on Jared’s bedroom wall. It’s a monthly calendar filled with stickers. 1 sticker for 1 successful night. Every night before bed I always point out to that “sleep track calendar” to remind him of how close he is from getting all the stickers collection.

3. REDUCE

If you happened to get used to stay at your kids room until they fell asleep, you might want to try to reduce your stay inside.

  • Find an excuse to get out of their room with a promise to come back afterwards.
  • Be specific in what you are going to do and when are you coming back.

For example: Mommy needs to throw some laundries to the drier, be back for 5 minutes. Mommy needs to use the toilet to do #2, I promise I’ll be finished in 5 minutes max. Mommy needs to call aunty XX to arrange our playdate tomorrow, be back in 7 minutes. Then, please make sure you’re back at the right time.

My point is this; try to reduce your stay inside your kids’ room to loosen the their attachment before sleep with you. Make them used to with the new (alone) environment.

Do this gradually. A drastic change may cause a shock to your child’s mental. Give time for your child to process the new forms and informations you are trying to implement in the house. Again, it’s all about the progress not the process. We’ve started with 3 minutes – 5 minutes – 10 minutes – standing on his door – 15 minutes – to not coming back because all we can hear is silent.

4. RELY ON THEM

Rely on their choices. They know what works best for them. They know what makes them comfortable most. Let them do it their way. Involve them in the process, count their opinions.

Every time (still today) before I leave the room, I always throw questions to Jared on how he would like to set the mood inside his room which will help him to send him help faster.

  • do you want me to leave your water bottle next to you or may I take it with me?
  • do you want me to cover your whole body with blanket or just your feet?
  • do you want me to turn off or leave the lights on?
  • do you want me to close or leave the door open?

I realised, by allowing Jared to has input in some of the minor decisions, he can begin to feel important and have confidence in their abilities to do so.

5. REINFORCE

Do not forget to send good vibes in the morning post a successful night.

“Mommy and Daddy had such a very good night, and baby were happy too.”

“Mommy is feeling really good this morning, can’t wait to have more fun with you.”

Give the positive credits to your kids as a reassurance of their brave action. “Because of you, I can ________________” (fill in the gap).

6. RESTRAINT

This is the hardest part. One night must be easy. The other nights must be super challenging. One thing to remember, stand on your ground. Restraint on your feet. Do not give in.

There were nights when I had to send him to his room back and forth 20 times; which were very frustrating both physical and emotional. There were nights I ended up raising my voice. BUT, I stand on my belief, that WE (Jared and mommy) can do this together. Both parents and kids need to support one another in order to succeed this challenge.

7. REPEAT

Repeat above steps again and again.

After approximately 60 days of training, consist of repetition of some bedtime routines (which I will post in details next week), we finally made it. Through this repetition, Jared was improved his confidence. The new routine had been set up. And we can’t be more proud and happier than this.


These routine is really helpful for me especially with the addition of the newborn in the house, I am able to get more works done around the house.

Above routine is best to apply for those of you who are not doing co-sleep. Including me, I and hubby chose to choose crib-sleep and keep our bed as our sanctuary. Read more about our crib-sleep journey here.

Above approach isn’t a sleep training, this is for toddlers who has been sleeping through the night without needing any bottle or still weaning. This does not requires a tough love. This requires a lot of patience, assurance, and explanations. Each toddler may not sit at the same level of readiness. Some toddlers, they need more time to adapt, while others may take it instantly.

Nonethless, one key to rememeber; is to keep doing it, and doing it right. You can’t do it for 3 days straight, then stop for the whole week. You gotta be consistent in implementing this new lifestyle.

If you find these tips helpful, leave your comments below. Or you might wanna share some of your tips too, I am more than happy to hear that. Happy trying!! May you have some good quality pillow talks with your partner. Time to mend the romance back. X

 

Love,

Kenny

#FASHIONFRIDAY : BLEU BLUE

These shots was taken last Sunday, straight after church. Because that is the only day when the whole family dress up well for the occasion. Oh yeah…we’re meeting Jesus, we’d better put our best attire on, right?!

It was raining that day, so we chose to wear something waterproof. Daddy and Mommy were up for some navy trench raincoat while Jared was looking cool with his feather printed blue jacket.

We had such an early departure from home, church was fun and amazing, then the kids were over-tired; they had some nap in the car while us, the parents had to eat some Chinese take away lunch in the car. You gotta do what you have to do, they said.

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We stopped by at the Hunters Hill skate park on the way home, and let Jared play his scooter there. 30 minutes later, he refused to go home. 45 minutes later, he started to negotiate with us. 60 minutes late, he accepted our bribe; McDonald’s run it was. Happy Meal to keep the kid happy.

Went straight back home and took some quick indoor casual family photos utilising the minimal lights inside our unit. NOW, ALL EYES ON US.

Last but not least enjoy some #thecuttingroomfloor from last week shooting – and let me introduce you to Jared; the over-achiever, cause there’s always one in the family, right?! Happy weekend guys! Enjoy your time with some lovelies. X

both are leaning on mommy; the "big" tower


// Kenny: Trench Coat (Sportscraft) , High Neck White Tee (SHEIN), Navy buttoned shirt (Zara), Denim Skirt (@bevnoir), Suede high knee boots (Zara) //
// Andri: Trench Coat (Topman), Navy sweat (Marcs), White tee & Black Jeans (H&M), Shoes (Vans) // 
// Jared: Feather Printed Bomber Jacket, White Sweater (Huxbaby), Black Pants (Uniqlo), Shoes (Vans) //
// Asher: Overall (Cotton On Kids), Bomber Jacket (Zara Kids), Beanie (Toshi), Socks (Jamie Kay) //

 

Love,

Kenny

7 RITUALS TO KEEP MY SANITY AS A MOTHER

I had a lot of questions from families and friends regarding my recent status as a mom of 2 boys;

how do you cope with 2 kids?

My classic answer would be – Yeah, I am fine! (while busy covering my boobs during feeding time and telling Jared to finish his lunch including the veggies).

The truth is – I AM NOT OKAY. I NEED HELP. I NEED AN ASSISTANT.

My motherhood journey aren’t always neat and beautiful as my Instagram/Pinterest feed. Some days are glorious. Some days are scabrous. Some days I win a lottery. Some days I lost my sanity.

Unlike my husband who had an above average EQ level. Mine is probably on the edge of the bottom line. I struggle with my patience a lot. However, I do not let this fact define who am I as a mom. I realised as a parent, we are the role model of our kids behaviour. Thus, it is very important for me to keep my physical and emotion being in front of my kids by keeping my sanity.

On a bad day; or when thing goes wrong. I do these 6 rituals to help me back to my rational state of mind.


1. STOP & BREATH 

Mom-hood is indeed a full on job from am to pm. Busy busy busy…it’s all I can say. I rarely find myself sitting on the couch with stretched leg. When the bub were finally asleep, your 3yo were calling you to be his sparring partner.

Mom-hood is selfless, you decide to put someone else’s need above yours. However, this would become a boomerang when we forget to maintain our health being. We may feel over-giving and lost to the occasion.

Being a mom is like having 3984 tabs opened at the same time. Your brain never stops working. Imagine if you never switch your computer to sleep mode or forget to format your hard disc. One day it hang randomly from overused/overloaded. Same thing with our brains, we gotta remind ourself to stop and breath. Your baby can cry for another 5 minutes without getting injured. Give yourself a space to restart your button. Lock yourself behind those pantry doors.

2. DRINK WATER

A new study found that drinking water can improve your mood.

Breastfeeding takes up a lot of my energy and time. It consumed me to a deeper emotion level sometimes while keeping up with a busy buzzy toddler. So, in order for me to win my everyday hustle, I have to keep myself hydrated. Drink a lot of water when things go wrong, let it cool the heat within me. Or probably

3. TURN ON SOME MUSIC

Music, more than any other art form, has the power to give me an immediate emotional hit. Everyone has a song that can instantly make them cry, or a tune they can’t help but dance to. Music is an easy way to manage not only our feelings, but how we function. At this point, I would do whatever helps to get my mojo back. SO TURN IT ON HIGH AND DANCE TO IT. And let the kids dance around too.

4. HAVE SHOWER

Having a warm bath helps me relaxed my tension muscles. But, hey mama, isn’t bath time is a luxury thing we get to do most of the days?! Yes, it is! When I can’t fit myself to the shower, at least I manage myself to wash my face and both hands. And let this warm water does its magic to my mood.

5. PHONE A FRIEND

You need to let it out. Let me clear it up once again. YOU NEED TO SAY IT LOUD. that you are having such a crap day. do not keep it for yourself. let the world knows you are not okay today. Trash that negative vibes out of your mind, mouth, and body. I guarantee it will instantly ease your burden. SAY IT LOUD OR WRITE IT CLEAR!

Get some confirmations that you are not alone on this. Get your tribe to cheer you up and shower you with word of affirmations and encouragements.

6. WORD

Before I ended my day and labelled it a “bad day” – let me get back to His word. All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right – 2 Timothy 3:16 (NLT)

His word gives me perspective while the world gives me an objection. And I choose that WHO AM I IS DEFINED BY THE WORD NOT THE WORLD. I am wonderful and beautiful, I am called to do this, He equips and enables me to finish the task.

7. GET SOME SLEEP 

Last but not least, cuddle your precious bears and rest with them together. Forget the laundries and dishes. Leave the toys & crumbs on the ground. Do not put so much pressure on your shoulders. Enjoy the cuddles for a little longer before they outgrown your hugs, kisses and bed. 😉


Keeping my sanity is very important for me. I believe of our capacity to love others is determined through our contentment about ourself. Our feelings are transcend through our action. And kids, they are able to feel our pain and disappointment.

Everyday I want to learn to love myself better and to love my kids deeper. May you also have the same desire. And again I remind you, that it is okay to be not okay. You are human and you are normal. Ask for help TODAY by clicking the links below: (no way sponsored)

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Love,

Kenny

#FASHIONFRIDAY – AUTUMN FEELS

black and leather are very versatile for any seasons. It goes well with any denim and colours. It is a MUST ITEM in everyone’s wardrobe, including the kids’.


Hello Friday! It’s been a while I am putting my passion for fashion aside. Until last week, when I was cleaning up my IPhone storage, I found some great lookbook photos of me with the family. Somehow, it sparked the fire back to start The Tjungsquad fashion section. So, let’s level up the fun by starting a new official hashtag of my fashion section #fashionfriday – I will try my best to update this section once a week, yes new fashion inspiration will up live on Friday.

Today, let’s talk about autumn. Yeah I see it’s June already which means winter is no longer near, instead, IT IS HERE! But, how can you deny the beauty of autumn?! I can not. It is surely my favourite season. And still in the autumn feels and my favourite colour mode; Yellow and orange.

These photos were taken 2 weeks ago during our family day out. And our first time out & about photoshoot with Asher. I didn’t planned in the first place to take some family fashion shots, but just realised we were wearing colour – coordinated outfit that day except Asher when I run through the photos. So, here are some inspiration for you and your family; black and leather are very versatile for any seasons. It goes well with any denim and colours. It is a MUST ITEM in everyone’s wardrobe, including the kids’. Photos were taken at Centennial Parklands.

Hope you enjoy this section as much as I do. X

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And some #thecuttingroomfloor especially for YOU to enjoy! Because taking photos with kids are full hard work. And just to give you an idea that those perfect pictures are definitely one of many. We treasure them, we don’t take them for granted. ><

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// Kenny: black denim jacket (Cotton On), Blue Stripe Skirt (Sussan), Shoes (Nike) //
// Andri: Black leather jacket (Calvin Klein), Black tee (H&M), Shoes (Adidas Ultra Boost) //
// Jared: leather jacket (Eve Jnr), Khaki tee (RXR), Pants (Cotton On Kids), Shoes (Vans) //

 

Love,

Kenny