3 ODD THINGS TO THRIVE MOTHERHOOD

Do you find motherhood challenging? Do you feel inadequate for the role? Are you scared? Are feeling frustrated? How much sleep do you get this week? How many coffee do you finish a day?
and the list goes on…

Growing up I always want to be a mother. I love kids, and they love me. Not until I had my first child; not knowing what actual motherhood was like, and being afraid to talk about it with anyone. Everything started to change – one by one, little by little, day by day. How life changing and how emotionally complex a time it is for women – the powerful change of identity new mothers go through, the isolation of post-partum depression, and the on-going attachment. But it is still by far the greatest accomplishment I have ever achieved in my life. *pat on the back*

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We all know being a mother is never an easy job. Unlike 9 – 5 regular job, it requires all of your time, mind, energy, soul – ALL OF YOU. You can’t leave when you don’t feel like doing it. Everyday is a battle between mind and soul. Some peer pressures may add the nerves within you.

When all those things collide, I learnt quickly that in order for me to survive motherhood is by doing it my way.

And some of the ways are not ordinary to most ears. It might SHOCK most of the new mothers or soon to be a mother. So, are you ready?? These are my 3 ODD THINGS ON HOW TO SURVIVE MOTHERHOOD

YOU DON’T ALWAYS NEED AN ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS

Human brains, especially mom brains, in general don’t like dealing with ambiguity. We want to (believe that we) make decisions based on knowing all the facts.

Why does my 24 months old baby has suffer from sleep regression? When can you start introducing sugars to a child? What is the best gap between your first and second child? How can I remain calm when my toddler’s screaming and slamming her head on the wall during the groceries? Should I give my kid iPad and video games?

Unfortunately, this motherhood journey comes with no manual book, no contract, no insurance. There is no right or wrong, black or white. Every curiosity, every perplexity, every anxiety, every scarcity – these feelings are valid but not definite. There’s always a pro and contra to your questions. And that is okay. These should not affect your decision making process. Because remember you are doing motherhood for yourself and your children, NOT for other monsters.

So, calm down…stop putting all the pressures on yourself – to get everything fixed on the tip of your finger. Your brain may filled with 963,815 questions a day, your heart may rushed to 225 km/hr but you gotta accept the fact that some questions may not be answered instantly TODAY. But, ONE DAY you will get there. ONDE DAY you will understand why does thing happen accordingly in the past. Even when you find NO answer to your ambiguity, my one piece of advice, never give up on this hood called motherhood.

You are never alone on this journey, you are not the only clueless person on this crazy road. Ask around, speak up, and stay positive. You don’t need to figure out these puzzles alone today.

ONE PLUS ONE DOES NOT NECESSARILY TWO

What does motherhood to do with this complicated mathematical riddle. THAT’S IT! It is complicated. What I mean by this is not everyone will understand and accept this fact. SO, bear with it!! 1 + 1 = 3 ; this statement bothers most of mathematicians, it intrigued them to proof that it is true. However, to most of us – common people, we don’t really care on this debate.

And this is exactly what I feel about modern motherhood. Not everybody could understand the physical and mental struggles a mother has to face everyday. I am talking about SAHM, working moms, mom of one or twins, single moms. WE ARE ALL MOTHERS. We are all putting the same effort to raise our kids. We are all moving towards one purpose. But sadly, nowadays, the society often times try to part us into different segments. Then, the next day we wake up in mothers rivalry. Who are doing better and who are working harder?

To me, no matter what! All mothers are a super woman (full stop). They are the first one to wake up in the morning – the last one to to lay her head on bed. They gave up their body, they gave up their sleeps, they gave up their freedom, they gave up their space, they gave up their moments, they gave up their life for just one breath. They are the most selfish person on this entire world. AND I RESPECT ALL OF YOU. YOU ARE MY HERO.

That is why this topic annoys me a lot. And I feel that I had to speak up for myself. This is me explaining 1 + 1 = 3 is possibly true. The society has their own perception on motherhood. So do us, we have our own voice about motherhood. Do not let it break us, instead let the similarity unite us. So next time, when the society says you should not go back to work until at least your baby 12 months old OR they might question the things you are doing with your kids at home today, look at them in the eyes and share your voice confidently.

This journey is not meant for the weak. This gig is designed for those who are committed. This road is build for those who are willing to go extra miles, those who are open-minded, those who are extraordinaire, those who are brave enough to take the risk.

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REMEMBER THIS

Bottom line: Motherhood is not for anyone. And you are blessed to be one of its special breed.

BREAK THE RULES

YES! You hear this. BREAK THE RULES> rules are there in the first place to be broken, right? jkjkjk

With the firstborn I used to do everything textbook / Google accordingly. Unfortunately, with the second one, I have got very minimal time to follow step 1 to 10. Many times I skipped the step 1 to 6, jumped onto 7 straight away. Or otherwise, I would find Jared with another lollies in his mouth or bubbles on his throat.

Thus, I quickly learnt in order to survive motherhood, I gotta learn how to break the rules. The rules of breast feed vs bottle feed. The rules of co-sleep or crib sleep. The rules of BLW vs spoon feeding. The rules of spanking vs time out.

At this time round, I choose to do whatever works best for the me and my kids at the time. I know I used to be strict with routines. But, let’s be honest, routines are draining. For those who are having zero support system other than your husband in the house, living with routines and kids are hard work. I used up all my energy in yelling and chasing my toddlers rather than enjoying the magical moments we may create in between.

So quick updates on my life lately:

  • I don’t only breast feed. I combine breast feed and bottle feed Asher (depends on the circumstances). Mostly when I’m home during day time I breast feed him exclusively. And he’s happy to take either breast and bottle. So, I am happy too.
  • I stop sterilise bottles and other baby utensils – just because it takes forever to me to get ready. Boiling water is the way I roll these days.
  • I do half co-sleep with Asher just because I have already set up a cot for him inside the boys room and our bed is not spacious enough to fit another human on it. (We definitely need an upgrade to super King size). So, first half of the night, Asher will spend his sleep on his cot on the boys room, when he wakes up for night feeding, I will take him with me till the morning.
  • I slap and yell at Jared. But I don’t prefer to make that as my first response towards his daily misbehaviour. I ask him for time out at the first place then if he did the same mistake for the second time round, I have to give him a punishment as the consequence of his action. Then, I do reconciliation every night before bed with him then we pray together.

My advice to all mothers of one, two, three or many more. Your intuition is your best weapon. Follow them and wear them with pride.

Never ever feel sorry for breaking the rules, instead feel sorry for yourself for breaking down your mental health by following the rules.

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Mama your way is the only way you do motherhood. 
There is no hood like motherhood. Wishing you all the best and luck in thriving this gig. X

 

Love,

Kenny

6 COMFORT SAVVY TIPS WHEN CHOOSING MATERNITY SWIMSUIT

Swimwear season is here and you are pregnant. I SURE AM…. 

duh

Du-uhhh.. I feel you. sorry not sorry.

But there’s no reason to worry, take pride in your pregnant body. And find comfortable suit for your body type.

6 Comfort Tips – when choosing maternity swimwear

  1. Go Upsize – NO. I am not only talking about our Maccas meal size. I am talking about our suit size. Ha. As your breasts, busts and hip grow, it is very important to find the right size suit for you too – make sure it is not squeezing and pinching.
  2. Go Higher – a suit with higher – cut leg openings will make your legs seem longer because of the higher cut draw he eye upward, and in revealing part of your lower hip it creates the illusion of length.
  3. Avoid High Neck – high neck suits tend to press breasts down.
  4. Enough Coverage – make sure your suit provides you with enough coverage which will comfortably cover your bottom and bust as you move, bend, and sit. There’s nothing more annoying than a suit that keeps riding up or shifting, and that you have to tug at constantly.
  5. Layering – doesn’t make you larger if you do it right. A long tunic will help elongate you. And it gives an extra stylish factor to your summer shots.
  6. Don’t be ordinary – go for some patterns and colors. Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you should fade into the background! But be careful with your choices. Avoid bold and large patterns, because they will zoom in your body parts. Instead go with smaller patterns when you’re pregnant. Go with smaller prints, piping, and horizontal stripes along or just under the bust. Color wise; choose a suit with blocks of color, or one solid bright color rather than wild patterns that overwhelm. Dare to stand out among the crowds. because you are beautiful.

Top Picks

Which one is your favourite? whatever you pick, one thing we all should remember; to embrace our own bodies for a miraculous life is being knitted inside your growing belly. You are beautiful and powerful woman.

Enjoy the season!! X

 

Love,

Kenny

 

 

 

 

 

 

FATHER’S DAY GIFT GUIDE WITH JORD WATCH

DAD

noun

informal

 

  1. one’s father.
    “his dad was with him”

Dad is one of the most important person in everyone’s life. But, rarely the world brings out their significant role to the surface. Perhaps because their physical being are seen less in the house, they are doing less of the house chores, and they are not breastfeeding the bub.

BUT

those things will not decrease the value of a father. Fathers are central to the emotional well-being of their children; they are are capable caretakers and disciplinarians. Research shown that fatherless children have higher chance for a school dropped off than children with an intact family.

See, how significant the role of A FATHER IS. So, this year, let us celebrate Father’s Day significantly. First thing first, get prepared earlier. 😉

Here are some FATHER’S DAY GIFT GUIDE you should take in mind. And make this year Father’s Day memorable for you and him.

1. Pick a “timeless” piece 

DADS do not need a different variety of accessories to survive the whole year. He’s counted care enough to buy new undies every once a year. Ha. So, my only tip is buy him a piece that will last throughout the seasons and will still be relevant for him to wear on every birthday. A.k.a buy a “one thing for all”. And I guess, watch is one the best option. Why? Because, the value of a watch is not in being able to tell how much time has passed, but in being aware of the need to make that time count. And this is my ultimate goal, to get him notice that moments are bigger than minutes and watch should tell more than time.

2. Choose a “stylish” piece

No matter how old your dad is, he still can be stylish. Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak – Rachel Zoe. Let the piece you picked for him are showing off their true inner personality.

3. Get it “personalised”

Nothing beats personalised gifts, doesn’t it? here’s why. It show you have put thought into choosing a gift. It also shows that you know the person extremely well and have gone out your way to make sure the gift is something they will love and treasure. Sounds like something you would get for your dad this year?

Well, I am lucky enough to partner up with Jord Wood Watches this year to get my personalised gift for my husband a.k.a father of my children. A classic timepiece that are modelled after a modern lifestyle. Not to forget that they are also provide an engrave service for all watches. Make it personal hey! And to suit his social – curios – city personality, I chose a watch from Dover series in Koa & Black. With gears in full view and structured style, the Dover Black & Koa was designed for the maker in us all.

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Direct shop link below:

https://www.jordwatches.com/series/dover/koa-and-black/#mamaonrepeat

Shop more range:

MEN

https://www.jordwatches.com/shop/men/#mamaonrepeat

WOMEN

https://www.jordwatches.com/shop/women/#mamaonrepeat


Sounds like a piece you would get for your dad this year, then is a prefect timing for you to get one!!

Jord Wood Watches is giving all my followers/subscribers the opportunity to participate in the giveaway of a gift card.

All you have to do is enter your information in the below link. Every person who enters will be instantly emailed a $25 e-gift code to use on their site!

https://www.woodwatches.com/g/mamaonrepeat

*The giveaway will close 08/06/2017 at 11:59pm.. e-gift codes will expire on 10/29/2017.
Watch Gift Ideas
This post is sponsored by Jord Wood Watches.

Thank you for reading and I do really hope you win! X

 

Love,

Kenny

24HOURS SUPER MOTHER’S DAY GIVEAWAY

TGIF!! 2 days to go to Mother’s day and  I am spoiled already with so many gifts and love from my dearest. SO…I guess it’s the best time to GIVE back to my readers and followers.

I AM GIVING AWAY 2 (two) MOM tee by Ily Couture to ONE LUCKY WINNER. So, you could share it with your lady boss who always have your back from time to times. And I will draw it this evening 5PM.

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Here’s how to enter:

  1. Click follow on mamaonrepeat.com and my instagram account (@mamaonrepeat)

  2. Tag 1 of your best lady boss you would keen to share the tee with on the comment below

Follow those simple steps and stay tuned for some surprises on your mailbox this weekend. 😉

And in case you need some inspiration to style your new MOM tee. I have you covered on this area. Pair this statement tee with your favourite tassle denim (cause its just IN for the season) and get your boots for colder season or mules for summer. Finished it off with a clutch/sling bag for a stylish daily look. 

These shots were taken yesterday during our family time at Wannabees; an Indoor Play Centre in Sydney where children can dress up, role play & explore different occupations within our community. And I love seeing Jared playing and learning through an imaginative role-play. And guess what?! we were the last family who left the building and the moment we reached out to the car park, no cars around, orange wall, and the lighting was perfect. Yeah…you know what to do; let’s the photoshoot begins….

Unfortunately, Jared was not so keen for some photos, he was busy munching his snacks. And I gotta dragged him all along. as always. typical. MOM’S LIFE. either you drag the little humans behind you OR they drag you out the store before you. Well, either way, I am still so proud wearing this label MOM.

MOM is strong

MOM is bold

MOM is brave

and….

MOM is WOW

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Love,

Kenny

ANZAC DAY OUT

A “Sunday” on weekdays? I’LL TAKE IT. Here I dumped some of the photos taken during our family day out on Anzac Day. Well, since most of the brunch cafes and shopping mall were closed for operations, we decided to take J’s out to amusement park. And we chose Luna Park, the most iconic amusement park in Sydney, New South Wales. I will be honest, most of the rides were pretty old-school but mannnn…location wise, Luna Park is just one of the most beautiful spot I would go back for 52 times in a year with same level of excitement. Located on the northern shore of Sydney Harbour, there are simply many things you can explore around the area. I would say, I am quite lucky to live here today. I AM BLESSED.

Well, it is an opened air amusement park, so, raining is its biggest enemy. Unfortunately, that was exactly what happened during our visit. The first half day was wonderful then few hours later after midday, the rain hit. We, as a parent, were sad for a probability that our kid wouldn’t be able to enjoy his free time at the park. But, it turned out the other way around, J was really calm and collective at those present moment, he embraced the rain and told us word by word “Jared helps mommy to hold the umbrella”, and my heart melted. That was exactly my mood booster for the day. AGAIN. I was reminded, there’s always one beauty out of your messy wet soaking day. Well, on my case, it’s more than one though. J enjoyed his time with some Smurfs fellas and we (daddy & mommy) enjoyed some (non) extreme rides too. We finished the day off by taking some killer shots on the harbour. And here I am dumping some of previous photos taken by my talented husband. Ps: he is a legend. He carried 2 bags (nappy & camera bag), held the umbrella, while taking pictures of two of us under the rain. I can’t imagine life without him. He never complains and he make things happen. He even said to me that “part of my vow was to take countless photos of you”.

I JUST LOVE HIM SO MUCH MORE THAN HE COULD EVER IMAGINE.

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Kenny : hat (Miniso Japan), eyewear (Duma Official), oversized denim (Pull&Bear), tribal top (@bevnoir), white pants (Zara), oxford (Gardenia Copenhagen), triangle clutch (@asamula_bali) // Jared : hat & monster tee (cotton on kids), leather jacket (eve.jnr), denim (@izzybizzyshop), timberland kids

 

Love,

Kenny